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  1. So, what do you do?

    December 27, 2011 by June:Wow

    A lot of people ask me that question. And i’m guilty of asking the same of others. At this point, you must know two things: 1) I don’t really have an answer to that question, and 2) I don’t know why I ask other people what they do, because most times I have found that it has no bearing on their character. It’s not something i’m proud of, and i’m trying hard to mend my ways.

    I do lots of things.

    This year, I did a lot of corporate writing, worked with UNICEF as a consultant, started a little events company, and taught sex ed to kids living on plantations. I worked with various companies, NGOs and individuals to bring different ideas to fruition, some of which (I sincerely hope) helped make a difference to people in need. Next year, I hope i’ll be doing other things. So when people ask me what I do, I always say i’m a “writer”, because it’s the most honest answer I can give in the shortest time. If you think about it, all the stuff I do requires some writing at some point (from emails, to reports, to articles, to scribbling my name on a contest form hoping to win a free trip to Honolulu etc.)

    But this usually invites more questions, such as: “What do you write about?”, “Who do you write for?”, and the inevitable, “Are you a blogger?”.

    [By the way, the standard answers to those questions are: 'Nonsense', 'Anyone who will pay me', and 'NO'.]

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    I think I spent quite a bit of time being bothered by not knowing what defined me, but i’m over it now.

    People work their whole lives so that they can have business cards that spell out their role in society. I have known people who got angry with bosses who didn’t provide them with name cards. Maybe it’s a social tool, as i’ve noticed how people give out name cards as if it’s going out of fashion.

    Back when I was doing my pupillage in a big corporate law firm, the other pupils would look forward to the end of pupillage because it meant having their own 8′ x 8′ office with their name in gold letters on the door, and name cards that told the world they were doing something important. As you progressed in the firm, you were upgraded to bigger rooms; and when you made partner, you got a room with windows or some sort of view, depending on seniority.

    I remember naively asking my boss at the time why people worked hard so that they could be enslaved in a box for the rest of their lives. Working 10 years to get your own parking space and a room with a view just didn’t make sense to me. Unsurprisingly, I didn’t last very long in the corporate world.

    Personally, I prefer to look into someone’s eyes, smile, and say “Hello, I’m June” before any exchange of name cards. It’s a warmer way, brings people closer, and makes them want to call you more. It also took a while for me to buy into the whole name-card-for-business idea, but I do have some now. They were designed by the gorgeous Lisa Zainuddin of Oxoloco <— click the link to check ‘em out!

    Oliver’s philosophy
    When faced with the question “What do you do for a living?” My good friend Oliver used to answer, “I skate, draw, and play for a living. And to make money I do other things.”

    Similarly, I laugh, play, and fall in love every day. People will snigger and demand a “serious answer” when I tell them that, but I really don’t feel like I have a JOB because I really enjoy what I do. It doesn’t feel like work when you love what you do and have the freedom to do it from anywhere. I also do different things all the time, so it’s never dull. And as a result of the flexibility, I have more time to spend with friends and family, building strong bonds that money can’t buy. So, took me a while to explain, but that’s what I do, and I love it :)

     

    I won’t tell you that the world matters nothing, or the world’s voice, or the voice of society. They matter a good deal. They matter far too much. But there are moments when one has to choose between living one’s own life, fully, entirely, completely—or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the world in its hypocrisy demands. You have that moment now. Choose!
    ― Oscar Wilde


  2. Happy Birthday, June Low

    June 26, 2011 by June:Wow

    Have you ever experienced an absence of words amidst a flurry of thoughts? I have always found those moments baffling. How can we have so much on our minds but nothing to say, even when asked? What a shame it is that we aren’t able to share those thoughts, however embarrassing they may be. It’s like donating stuff you don’t want to a charity – you never know who might find it useful.

    But I think I may have found a solution: whenever I feel that way, I just write about something that happened recently, whether or not it’s relevant to my current state of mind. So for example, if i’m thinking about furniture, I might write about pangolins. This method has been extremely helpful at times when i’ve experienced writer’s block.

    If you think about it, there’s always something to write about, because we’re alive. Even doing nothing is an experience in itself.

    I sometimes think the part of my brain where the memory is stored is a bit like Photoshop or a layer cake because each memory can be divided into several layers or seen as a whole. So when I picture something, I remind myself to look beyond the surface and do the necessary prompting to get at each layer. The result is an enriched experience. Memory HD, if you like. And of course, something to write about. Whether it’s worth reading or not is another thing, but it gets you writing, and look, i’ve already done three paragraphs.

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    At a party last night, the birthday girl said “I can’t be 36. I haven’t done anything!”

    To which I replied, “But it’s been a good life!”

    She agreed, and began recalling the things she’d achieved, and the places she’d been to. By the time she was done, she discovered she had pretty much ticked off every childhood dream she had ever had: travel extensively, finish university, become a journalist, and marry the love of her life.

    As we were ooh-ing and aah-ing, her husband came over, made a face, and gave her a kiss. That warmed my heart a bit, and I sipped my beer in an attempt to hide the gay look on my face.

    I myself turned 26 last Tuesday.

    As a child, I wanted to be an astronaut (I had a really cool poster of Neil Armstrong in space on my wall), a clown, and a riddle salesman (selling riddles by the roadside for 50 sen to people interested in a challenge or a laugh). In my teens, I wanted to be a writer, an actress, and (after watching Legally Blonde) attend Harvard Law School and become a lawyer.

    In recent months, my ambitions have been: to travel the world, to write a book, to perform more, to learn something new every day, laugh all the time, sort my issues out, and figure out what I want to do with my life.

    I am a firm believer that we should revise our list of ambitions every so often so that we don’t become bored/boring. That is not to say you should be a drifter (because they already have enough members), I just think it’s a good idea to constantly have new things to do/look forward to. It may make you depressed when you realise you will never really achieve all of your dreams, but it will also keep you going when you’re depressed over other things.

    Try it yourself. I’m off to learn all about breastfeeding now (no kidding – as in, “not joking” and “no kid’).

    Heard this song on the radio as I was driving home on my birthday. Thought it was a good example of an oldie but a goodie: